Whether it’s a dear friend, a family member or someone’s child in the hospital it’s natural to want to help but people often don’t know what they can do. I have a lot of hospital experience – not only have I been a patient, I have had to take care of my son, who has a rare disease and has been in and out of the hospital, and my mother, who recently spent two weeks in the hospital.
While caring for my loved ones I got several calls from people wondering what they can do. Sometimes it’s hard to think of things on the spot and sometimes you just don’t want to ask. So I thought I’d put together a list of things to do for someone (and their family members) while in the hospital.
1. Don’t ask if there is anything you can do, just do it.
2. Snacks for the hospital room. This is helpful for family members who are taking care of the patient. A few of my co-workers put together a box of snacks for us while my mom was in the hospital. It was great.
3. Bring new pajamas. Most patients hate the hospital gowns and if they are allowed to wear regular pajamas they appreciate a new pair.
4. Drop off books, magazines and games that can be played with one other person in bed. Being in the hospital can be boring and the patient or family caregivers might want a distraction.
5. Visit but keep it short. Visitors are appreciated but the amount of visitors can often be overwhelming. If you are the only visitor, assess the situation and maybe stay a little longer.
6. Drop off the patient and family members their favorite beverages. This saves them from having to run to vending machines and spending extra money.
7. The hospital provides meals for the patients but not the family member who stays with them. Cincinnati Children’s Hospital sells meal cards for family members for $5 each. Having these cards allows the caregiver to not have to leave their child in the room alone while they eat. Many hospitals sell gift certificates for the cafeterias. These are also helpful for family members staying with the patient.
8. Show up with a cup of coffee (or other favorite beverage for the family member) and insist on staying with the patient while the family member gets a break from the room.
9. Send balloons, cards and/or flowers to brighten the room.
10. Remember that the patient and immediate family members might be extremely stressed and worried about the patient’s condition. Even if you are upset or worried do not show it in front of the patient. Take a walk down the hall and pull yourself together. The patient doesn’t need to worry about their visitors too.
11. If a parent of young children is in the hospital or a child is in the hospital taking the parent away from the other children, see what you can do to help. Drop off dinner to the family members at home and offer rides to extracurricular activities and school.
12. In the words of my 12-year-old son: “Candy, bring candy, candy is always good.”
Do you have any suggestions to add?
I love your list. Someone I know with one daughter very ill, and 2 sisters at home, posted a monthly schedule of school and sport events, music lessons the girls needed transportation to and weekend overnights either at the hospital or with friends. They only had 1 car and Dad worked more then full time. Everybody knew what to do and it took the pressure off.
Something that makes perfect sense but in the “heat of the moment”, very easy to overlook. I really like the idea of helping with the rest of the family that’s at home. Our church tries very hard to make sure that family meals and errands are taken care of, when one parent or child is in the hospital so the rest of the family is still taken care of. Life doesn’t stop, right?
PS – Candy is always good LOL Especially if you share with your nurses.
I like these, as someone who has had family members with extended stays in the hospital it’s important to show support and help them out whenever possible
These are very helpful tips to support family and friends with loved ones in the hospital. I always want to help but never quite sure how. Thank you.
This is GREAT advice Gina! I love #1
I love this! I think that’s great advice and I am always wondering what to do for friends/family who are in the hospital. I need to save this so I can remember all your tips!
The only time I’ve spent in the hospital is having my babies, and that was hard enough. I can’t even imagine being there as long as your Mom or even your son in and out of the hospital.