How Life is Like The Walking Dead

Beth is only 16 or 17 on The Walking Dead but she is wise beyond her years. Although she might be royally messed up emotionally and mentally at this point, she has quotes in the show that hit home whether you are in the middle of a zombie apocalypse, raising children, taking care of ailing parents or dealing with everyday work and life issues.

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In the first half of season 4 several members of the prison group become sick and are quarantined. Beth’s father Hershel goes into the quarantined area to help the ill. Beth’s sister Maggie asks her if she knows where their dad is. Beth, who is in charge of watching all the kids, says “We don’t get to be upset. We all have our jobs to do.” She makes statements along these same lines throughout the season.

Funny enough, this quote went through my mind a lot over the last two weeks. My mother has been very ill and in the hospital for nearly two weeks. I have an older brother, younger brother, two sister-in-laws, my dad, my kids and two nephews and two nieces. We are lucky to have a close-knit family.

I realized through the last two weeks that we do all have our jobs to do when a crisis arrives in the family. My job is to take care of things – organizer, fact gatherer, caregiver. I questioned the doctor and nurses often making sure my mom had the care she needed. I also assessed what needed to be done to prepare my mom’s house for her return. We realized that my parents’ dogs would have to find a new home before she came home from the hospital so I found a rescue to take the mastiffs.

My younger brother’s job in the family is to get things done. Once the dogs were removed, we had to remove all dog hair from the home. My younger brother immediately took the lead to pull carpeting out of the home, replace flooring and paint my parent’s bedroom.

My older brother’s job is to keep my dad calm and help with whatever needs to be done. Believe me, keeping my dad calm is a BIG job (love you daddy).

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5-year-old nephew cleaning my mom’s

My sister-in-laws, nieces, nephews, my children and Nick worked their butts off to help us get the house ready and supported us through the tough time. Support was their job.

And although I definitely got upset during my mother’s 12 day stay at the hospital, I never did in front of her. I knew I had to be strong for her and do my job. Beth is right, “We don’t get to be upset. We all have jobs to do.”

What is your role or job in your family?

The 28 Things I’m Thankful For

Several of my friends have posted what they are thankful for each day in November on Facebook. I have not done that. Instead of posting something random that I come up with each day, I wanted to compile a list on my blog. A list of 28 things I’m thankful for.   And if you can make it to the end, you will discover the surprise contest! They are in no particular order.

1. The Fort Thomas Education Foundation Dance – It was there that I met my wonderful boyfriend Nick.

2. Northern Kentucky University – I received my BA in Journalism and Speech Communication at NKU. Without that degree I would not have had 10 years of experience as a reporter and six years in public relations.

3. The internship I had in college (1996). It was there that I met my current boss and made a life-long connection. I now work a job that I love.

4. The opportunity to work as a reporter for 10 years. That experience allowed me to learn a little bit about everything including construction, the housing market, city ordinances, politics, school budgets and so much more. It is also that experience that helped me learn so many useless facts. But most of all, that experience helped me make hundreds of connections with people who live, lead and work in my community.

5. Holly Hill Children’s Home – I volunteered as a mentor when I was 22-years-old. It opened my eyes to so much. My mentee asked for stuff like pop, deodorant and stamps for Christmas instead of the latest technology or hot item. She just wanted her basic needs met.

6. Outdoors/Seasons – I am thankful to live in an area where we can enjoy the seasons, hike, see waterfalls, run trails with our dog, stay in a cabin in the woods, go tubing, enjoy a large amusement park (Kings Island), play in the leaves, swim, pick berries, play in the snow and enjoy a bon fire.

7. My high school junior and senior English teachers – While other teachers, including my guidance counselor, at my high school were telling me not to even bother applying for college, these two teachers were encouraging me every step of the way.

8. My parents and brothers – My dad and my brother Bryan for teaching me to stand up for myself and to speak my mind. My mom for teaching me the RIGHT way to speak my mind. LOL My brother Ray for teaching me that I don’t always have to stand up for myself because whenever needed, he’ll do it for me.

9. Humor – I sometimes laugh at really inappropriate times. I try to control that. But I am happy to be a person who often finds the humor in things. When there is a choice to laugh or cry, I’m going to pick laughing every time.

10. My daughter’s sense of fashion – My 14-year-old daughter is an expert at hair, makeup and what to wear. And apparently I am clueless so I am thankful I have her to steer me in the right direction. I’m also thankful to be able to watch her grow into a beautiful, young woman.

11. My son – There is not just one thing I can say about Joey. I am thankful he’s in our lives. This could be a blog post in itself but Joey has had many health challenges, even in the womb, throughout his life and I’m just so thankful every day of my life that he is with us.

12. Langerhans Cell Histiocytosis – LCH is the rare disease my almost 12-year-old boy has. Although I wish we had never heard of Histio, it has brought some good things in our lives. I don’t live with anxiety and worry like I used to. I’ve realized that worrying all the time isn’t doing anyone any good. Instead of letting everyone’s problems live rent-free in my head, I choose to live life to the fullest. And to do so with my kids.

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13. Cincinnati Children’s Hospital – We are lucky to live 10 minutes from the hospital. Cincinnati Children’s is the place to be if you have Langerhans Cell Histiocytosis. The oncology department is amazing. It also has one of the best orthopedic departments in the country, which we are grateful for since Joey has had a bone graft of his hip. The pain team has also helped us a great deal. I must mention Dr. Neil Johnson specifically. He diagnosed Joey with LCH after I fought with doctors for over a month trying to find out what was wrong. He has followed us every step of the way for the last 20 months and ensured the best care possible for Joey.

14. Radio station contests – I win a lot. Nick wins a lot. Andi is doing pretty good too. Thanks to radio station contests, I have been able to enjoy many concerts, a trip to Vegas, $1000 in free James Free Jewelry, restaurant and massage gift certificates, being on stage with Jon Bon Jovi, several movie premiers and so much more for FREE.

15. The Walking Dead – This awesome show allows me to bond with Nick and his children from 9-10 p.m. every Sunday (when we are able to watch together) and when we talk about it throughout the week. Nick was dressed as a walker the night I met him.

16. Sharing Holiday Traditions – Nick and his three kids (21, almost 19 and almost 18) joined in our Christmas decorating tradition this year. I was able to give each one their own ornament for the tree. We decorated stockings, ate dinner together and decorated the tree. I am thankful for the opportunity to get know Josh, Jordan and Joel and I look forward to building on those relationships.

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17. Jordan – I am thankful for Jordan’s sense of humor and her ability to make me laugh. I love that she is an individual who doesn’t care what others think of her. She has her own fashion sense and a great attitude toward life. Her work ethic is awesome too. I am thankful that she gives me a glimpse of what life with an older teen girl will be like in a few years.

18. Joel – I am thankful that Joel and I can bond over music, TV shows and movies. His drumming talent blows me away. I love observing him with his friends since they make me crack up laughing. I enjoy joking with him about things I can’t joke with my younger kids about just yet. I love being around him and getting a glimpse of what life with an older teen boy will like in the future.

19. Josh – I love how mysterious he can be at times. I admire how he can quietly sit back and take things in without reacting. I appreciate his love for sports, work ethic and enthusiasm for music. I envy his ability to eat a ton of whatever he wants and never gain a pound.

20. Concerts – Motley Crue, Def Leppard, Kiss, Pat Benatar, Taylor Swift, Bon Jovi, Kelly Clarkson, Scott Wieland, Butch Walker, Indigo Girls… to just name a few. I love music, especially live music. I have been lucky enough to attend at least 50 concerts in my lifetime.

21. My Histio Family – all of the families I have met through fundraisers and online have made this journey easier than it would be without them.

22. The Rusty Griswolds & Taylor Swift’s Video: We’re Never Ever Getting Back Together  – I was dressed in pajamas, as T. Swift, the night I met Nick. He might not have noticed me if I wasn’t dressed like that. It was a costume party. The Rusty Griswalds were playing that night.

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23. My Community – Our community has repeatedly supported us in our fight against Histio and our care for Joey since diagnosis. They have also remembered Andi every step of the way. We are so lucky to have them… even strangers.

24. My Friends – Not only have they supported us in our fight against Histio and our care for Joey, they have provided me with friendship for years. I have to say a special thanks to Jessica Gibula. She has been my rock so many times. So many people have that I hate not to name each one but that would take all day. Friends have helped with fundraising, shooting a Histio video, sitting with me in the hospital, watching Joey and so much more. I value those friends.

25. My nieces, nephews, sister-in-laws, my extended family – They have all supported us through the Histio fight. But that is no surprise since our family has always taken care of each other. I love my nieces and nephews like they are my own, my sister-in-laws like they are sisters I never had. My cousins…. well some of them are my closest friends. I have a pretty awesome family.

26. Nick’s Family – I thought I had a big family until I met Nick’s. They have all welcomed me and my kids as if we have been part of the family for years.

27. My Dog Scout  – She loves me unconditionally. She came in our lives at a time when I really needed her. She has cared for Joey when he has been sick and cuddled with me when I’ve needed it. She really is a family member.

28. My very full life with Nick – We might not be able to afford a fancy car or elaborate trips… but I have a very full life. I have an amazing man who loves me more than anything in the world and I love him. We have five incredible kids in our life. We have a huge, very close-knit family. We have tons of nieces, nephews and little cousins to enjoy. We have great friends. We both have jobs we enjoy, a house we like and neighbors who we love. We share a love for live music, movies, food and family. Yeah, I have a lot to be thankful for.

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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! What are you thankful for?

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Oh, let’s not forget the giveaway!! I have 11 tickets to Boogie Nights that are valid any Friday night through Dec. 20, 2013. This giveaway is going to be fun. Go to the Raising2tweens Facebook page, like the page and then post your best guess as to why I named my dog Scout (Hint: I love to read and work for a library). I will use random.org to pick a winner from those who guess it right. Be sure to post your guess on the Facebook page. Sharing the blog on Facebook or Twitter (@gina5620) and commenting here that you did will get you a BONUS entry. Entries will be accepted until noon on Sunday, Dec. 1.